to Get the Most Out of Coaching
Successful coaching requires
that the coachee becomes actively engaged in the coaching process.
Below are some basic tips to keep in mind as you work with your
Your coach is investing a
considerable amount of time and energy to help you succeed.
It is important that you put yourself in a frame of mind to learn
quickly and enthusiastically. See
your coaching experience as a way to expand your skills, connect with
the organization, build important relationships, and become part of a
high performing team.
Your time with your coach is
an individualized, on-the-job learning experience.
This means that you can feel comfortable asking questions,
seeking direction, or admitting that you don't know something.
Trust that your coach wants you to succeed and that he is
personally invested in your success.
an Active Listener
Make a concentrated effort
to actually hear what your coach is saying.
This means giving him/her your full attention, avoiding the urge
to interrupt, listening for key points, watching for nonverbal clues,
and staying attuned to underlying messages.
Understand that asking
questions is a key to learning. Asking thoughtful questions not only
provides you with more information, it can also build strong working
connections. Be certain that
your questions relate to the topic at hand, that your questions are
sincere and honest, and that your questions are a form of inquiry rather
than a veiled means to disagree or argue.
and Accept Feedback
a coachee your goal is to gain competence, make improvements, and boost
your sense of empowerment. To
do this it is important for you to receive honest and straightforward
feedback. Make an effort to
use feedback to build on your strengths and to improve weaknesses.
If you receive negative feedback, don't get defensive or
discouraged. Remember that
you are in a learning process and that you can trust your mentor to be
supportive and invested in your success.
Positive and Motivated
that with your coach you can accomplish positive things for yourself.
Coaching is your pathway to building competence, overcoming
frustrations, and becoming a productive contributor.
While working with your
coach, set personal development goals.
This means you should think about your role and what you need to
learn; then identify personal growth objectives that will indicate your
a Pro-Active Coachee
Be a pro-active learner.
This means that you should stay open to new challenges, be
willing to change and adapt, and take responsibility for your actions.
Be yourself; don't try to
play a role or be something that you aren't.
Don't say that you understand something when you don't.
Remember that everyone learns differently and at different
speeds. Remember also that everyone in the entire organization is
Curious and Introspective
is at the heart of growth: probe, inquire, and challenge.
As you move through your coaching sessions take time to look
inward and be honest about what you see.