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Coachee Skills:

How to Get the Most Out of Coaching


How to Get the Most Out of Coaching

Successful coaching requires that the coachee becomes actively engaged in the coaching process.  Below are some basic tips to keep in mind as you work with your coach.

Commit to Learning

Your coach is investing a considerable amount of time and energy to help you succeed.  It is important that you put yourself in a frame of mind to learn quickly and enthusiastically.  See your coaching experience as a way to expand your skills, connect with the organization, build important relationships, and become part of a high performing team.

Trust Your Mentor. 

Your time with your coach is an individualized, on-the-job learning experience.  This means that you can feel comfortable asking questions, seeking direction, or admitting that you don't know something.  Trust that your coach wants you to succeed and that he is personally invested in your success.

Be an Active Listener

Make a concentrated effort to actually hear what your coach is saying.  This means giving him/her your full attention, avoiding the urge to interrupt, listening for key points, watching for nonverbal clues, and staying attuned to underlying messages.  

Ask Questions

Understand that asking questions is a key to learning. Asking thoughtful questions not only provides you with more information, it can also build strong working connections.  Be certain that your questions relate to the topic at hand, that your questions are sincere and honest, and that your questions are a form of inquiry rather than a veiled means to disagree or argue. 

Seek and Accept Feedback 

As a coachee your goal is to gain competence, make improvements, and boost your sense of empowerment.  To do this it is important for you to receive honest and straightforward feedback.  Make an effort to use feedback to build on your strengths and to improve weaknesses.  If you receive negative feedback, don't get defensive or discouraged.  Remember that you are in a learning process and that you can trust your mentor to be supportive and invested in your success. 

Stay Positive and Motivated

Know that with your coach you can accomplish positive things for yourself.  Coaching is your pathway to building competence, overcoming frustrations, and becoming a productive contributor.

Set Personal Goals

While working with your coach, set personal development goals.  This means you should think about your role and what you need to learn; then identify personal growth objectives that will indicate your success. 

Be a Pro-Active Coachee

Be a pro-active learner.  This means that you should stay open to new challenges, be willing to change and adapt, and take responsibility for your actions.

Express Yourself

Be yourself; don't try to play a role or be something that you aren't.  Don't say that you understand something when you don't.  Remember that everyone learns differently and at different speeds. Remember also that everyone in the entire organization is continuously learning.

Be Curious and Introspective

Curiosity is at the heart of growth: probe, inquire, and challenge.  As you move through your coaching sessions take time to look inward and be honest about what you see. 

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